Marriage Preparation Tools

wed-5.gif · 1) Give couples an outstanding "marriage prep packet".
· 2) Set out a table with additional resources.
· 3) Build a powerful Marriage Preparation Curriculum.
· 4) Create a library for couples, presenters, and mentors.
· 5) Provide resources for Hispanic couples as needed.


There is now an online marriage preparation service that works with local Marriage support personal and allows couples in unusual situations (such as one partner being overseas for the time being) to complete a full featured marriage preparation program.


Why Marriage Preparation Matters

The goal of Marriage Preparation is to bring about superb marriages, the kind of marriages where people say, "Aren’t they a wonderful couple!" and mean it. The realities of our culture make this extremely challenging. Nearly all of the couples who come to the Church for marriage are already sexually active with one another; nearly all of them are using contraceptives* to avoid pregnancy before marriage, and half to three quarters of them are already living together. By their lifestyle choices, they have already convinced themselves that the Church has nothing to tell them about male-female relationships or fertility management, and certainly nothing worthwhile to say about sexuality.

So why do they come? Plainly they are looking for something more than they can get from cohabitation. They know from observation of other couples (and possibly their own bitter experience) just how fragile sexual relationships outside of marriage can be. They want something better for themselves and hope that a gorgeous public ceremony or maybe some mysterious "blessing" from the Church can give them that extra something.

So what can the Church do for them? Well, Jesus gave us the best teaching on marriage and relationships ever delivered, and John Paul II has taken that teaching and packaged it so well that we now know more about what makes a marriage work (and what doesn’t) than ever before, and this knowledge is mostly available only through the Catholic Church.

Marriage is a fine-tuned, extremely powerful biological/psychological/spiritual package. Marriage moves couples to create the very best setting for bringing up resourceful, contributing members of society.
That setting is the human family with two highly involved parents. The family, however, revolves around the wholehearted sexual donation of each spouse to the other. Anything that attacks that relationship is highly destructive to marriage and the family. Pornography, for example, involves the husband with imaginary sexual images instead of his wife. Both partners are clearly aware of this disconnection, and sexual activity becomes divisive instead of unitive, with typically disastrous consequences. Birth control is even worse. Contracepted sex is the individual pursuit of physical/emotional gratification instead of a mutual pursuit of greater love and family involvement. This self-centered sex, unlike family-oriented sex, has devastating effects, for example, the huge increase in divorce that has come about as our culture has become saturated with birth control.

Marriage preparation programs can now clearly teach what factors, such as birth control, attack the marriage bond and what factors, such as accepting children, support and enhance it. We owe a great debt to John Paul II, because now we can tell couples not only what to do (and avoid) for a life-long, excellent relationship, but we can also tell them why these practices make such a remarkable difference. Effective marriage preparation, however, calls for a thorough re-education of the trainers as well as the trainees, since all of us are immersed in a culture where sexual values are highly distorted.

This is absolutely worth the effort. Healthy marriages lead to loving families. Loving families lead to functional, productive communities—a culture of life, a Civilization of Love. Anything we can do to foster this society will have an enormous payoff!

Four steps to take:



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How contraception drives societies into the Culture of Death while chastity, <em>by the simple action of human nature</em>, produces the civilization of love <a href="http://www.omsoul.com/catalog/index.php?target=products&amp;product_id=688">View larger version</a>.

This wonderful biography on St Gianna tells her life's story, from her childhood, through her professional and family life, and up until the giving of her life for her child. Much of the book is in the form of an interview with Gianna's husband Pietro, and it also includes a section entitled "Gianna's Virtues," the testimony of Pietro for the process of his wife's beatification.

Helps teenagers understand the need to choose virginity up until they are married
Roots of The Problem poster
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Saint Gianna Molla
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SEX . . . Is there more to it?
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Humanae Vitae proclaimed the beauty of marital sex unburdened by obstacles opposing fertility. This book explains and defends that teaching.

Young people today must have a compelling reason to commit to sexual abstinence. Nationally known speaker Pam Stenzel provides many such reasons. She outlines the consequences of sex outside of marriage, and teaches teens social skills for avoiding the trap of uncommitted sex.

Christopher West explores the "whys" of the Church's teaching on human sexuality, focusing on the true nature of human love as a reflection of God's love. Sexual Honesty explains the critical difference between contraception and Natural Family Planning and shows how couples can live "sexual honesty."
Sex Au Naturel
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Sex Still Has a Price Tag DVD
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Sexual Honesty
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Sexual Wisdom challenges false sexual ideas with truth based on medical fact, established research, and the author's own wise thinking.

A wonderful compilation of St Josemaria Escriva's teaching on the glory and holiness of marriage,

Una explicación científica y detallada de por qué el uso de anticonceptivos hormonales aumenta el riesgo de desarrollar cáncer de seno
Sexual Wisdom
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Sexuality and Sanctity, The Christian Doctrine on Sex
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Si no es bueno para el tomar esteroides...Por que esta bien para ella?
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20 couples, who chose sterilization, tell how they received the grace to get sterilization reversals.

20 couples, who chose sterilization, tell how they received the grace to get sterilization reversals.

Materials for understanding the issues of sterilization and sterilization reversal and for encouraging sterilized couples to seek a reversal.
Sterilization Reversal - A Generous Act of Love
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Sterilization Reversal - A Generous Act of Love [PDF] 2003 edition
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Sterilization Reversal Packet
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How a 40-year-old mother of four and her husband received the grace to welcome one more soul into their family.

Lives have been radically improved by learning the value of fertility through Natural Family Planning

Strong persuasion for families to welcome one more child
Stretch Marks
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Teaching Fertility Appreciation
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Ten Great Reasons to Have Another Child
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Testimony of Healing: Sterilization Reversal - An Act of Love is the story of one couples experience of the harm of sterilization and the blessings of sterilization reversal.

The Bible and Birth Control is the premier resource for the Protestant anticontraception movement

Traces the Bible's opposition to contraception from Genesis to Revelation with wonderful clarity.
Testimony of Healing: Sterilization Reversal - An Act of Love (mp3)
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The Bible and Birth Control
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The Bible vs Contraception
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